Visualisation and designing short mantras to use again and again works, your brain loves imagery and associations. Create new self talk routines to ‘change your mind’ and regulate yourself. (Scroll down for mantra ideas).
Top tip – assign your irrational-self-talk an identity – notice when it’s yapping and correct it.
Identity ideas:
Imagine it as a toddler version of you.
Or you in adolescence (hormones!).
Or maybe picture a caveman-woman (cave-person?) or ape version of you.
Maybe a silent-movie-star version of you with big eyes and big dramatic gestures.
Maybe see yourself go into Ferrari or Maserati mode, too high, too fast.
Or imagine you going into a Hulk-Smash-Things mode (anger!).
Talk back to the distorted self-talk – correct it, regulate it, dial it down – talk to it gently, use a soothing tone, persuade it the drama is a bit ridiculous, unpack the real facts, be rational. It is a dramatic and negative version of you, but it is not you. It is not evil or bad – it is trying to help you, but is a bit silly and simplistic, and it gets the data wrong. Ask it: ‘‘So, how is this kind of thinking working out for you buddy?”
Breathe it down to regulate your body. Take a long slow breath in through the nose, hold for a few beats, then a long slow breath out through the mouth, and repeat…
Make your rational pre-frontal cortex the boss of you, instead of your trippy nervous system and your automatic negative predicting – regulate!
Remember to remind it: ‘It’s just your trippy nervous system, there’s no tiger here, breathe it down, and look again…’.
Some of us are not ‘calm’, and so what. Some of us are always on. Some of us are not low-heartbeat people, we’re high adrenaline people. We’re trippy. We have ‘hearts that beat like a hummingbird’ – that’s how American comic Conan O’Brien delightfully describes himself – with zero apology, and he doesn’t call it anxiety. He jokes that his business partner is the opposite to him, and ‘has a heart that beats about 5 times a minute, so he’ll live to be 160, like a turtle’. I love that. Use it to remind yourself that: “There are worse things to be. My stress is a disorder, and It’s nobody’s business but mine. So what if I’m hyper-present and hyper-engaged? That can be a super-power as well as a nuisance”. This is the kind of new framing that allows you to be happier, to unconditionally accept yourself, to understand and manage yourself.
Check out these fast fun and efficient mantra examples to interrupt and edit anxiety self-talk – take what you like from here, and edit versions of them just for you, in your own style of language, to build your own CBT tool-box. Write them down on flashcards or in your phone notes. Then use them, over and over, until they’re accessible in a flash for your amazing brain and body…
Scroll down to view mantra examples, or download the PDF for easy viewing and printing:
WordPress summaries experimental – extra basic mantras compiled from the data and content in this blog post:
Remember, your mantras should be personal and resonate with you. Use them as a tool to shift your perspective and promote positive self-talk. With practice, they can become an automatic response to negative thoughts and help build a foundation for a healthier mindset. Give it a try and see how it works for you!
1. “I am strong and capable. I can handle this.” 2. “I am safe in this moment.” 3. “I choose to let go of worry and trust in the process.” 4. “I am in control of my thoughts and emotions.” 5. “I am worthy of love and acceptance, including from myself.” 6. “I release the need to please others and focus on my own needs.” 7. “Every day, in every way, I am getting better and better.” 8. “I am grateful for all the good in my life.”